7 original birthday gift ideas that won't end up in a drawer

1. A song with their name in it

This is the idea that gets the biggest reaction: a real song, with their name in the chorus and your memories in the verses. Tell us in a few lines who they are and a story the family laughs about, then pick the style: afrobeat, zouk, gospel, coupé-décalé.

On the day, play it when the cake comes out, or post it as a status that morning. They'll replay it for weeks, and everyone will ask where you found it.

2. A memory box

Collect photos, concert tickets and little notes, and put them in a nice box. Add a card for each year you've known each other. It takes time, not money.

3. A video message from loved ones

Ask ten people who matter to them to record thirty seconds: cousins abroad, childhood friends, a former teacher. Edit it into a five-minute video.

4. An experience instead of an object

A cooking class, a day at the beach, a concert, a restaurant they'd never treat themselves to. Memories last longer than things.

5. A handwritten letter

It sounds simple, and that's exactly why it works. Tell them what you never took the time to say. They'll keep it.

6. A personalized object

Fabric with their initials, a framed family photo, an engraved piece of jewellery. Pick something they'll actually use.

7. A surprise with everyone

Gather family or friends without telling them. To finish on a high, play the song written for them in the middle of the party: it's often the moment people still talk about years later.

How to choose?

Ask yourself three questions:

• What makes them laugh, or cry with emotion?
• Do they need something, or want to be surprised?
• How much time do you have? A song takes a few minutes, a memory box a few days.